Essential do's & don'ts every visitor should know before the first "nǐ hǎo".
Use two hands when giving or receiving anything valuable (business card, gift, phone).
Offer and accept objects, drinks, or money with a slight nod of thanks.
Stand in line and keep your place; queues matter in metros and ticket offices.
Pour tea for others before refilling your own cup.
Say "不好意思 bù hǎo yì si" (excuse me) when squeezing past.
Try every dish offered as a sign of appreciation.
Tap the table twice with two fingers to say thanks when someone refills your tea.
Give or receive a business card text-side up.
Offer to pay the whole bill; the host usually insists.
Keep your voice moderate in public transport.
Stick chopsticks upright in rice – that symbolises funeral incense.
Touch someone's head or shoulder unless you are close friends.
Jump the queue or crowd the counter.
Write names in red ink; it's reserved for the deceased.
Open gifts in front of the giver unless they insist.
Finish every last bite; leaving a little shows you are satisfied.
Point with one finger; gesture with an open hand instead.
Blow your nose loudly at the table.
Split the bill item by item in local eateries; it looks stingy.
Discuss politics or territorial disputes with new acquaintances.
• Handshakes beat hugs for first meetings; light, firm, with a nod.
• Avoid back-slaps or enthusiastic arm-grabs until friendship is established.
• In queues, stand close like locals but never cut the line.
The inviter orders and pays. Offering to contribute is polite, but expect a friendly refusal. If you truly want to help, buy dessert, drinks, or the next meal.
• Rest chopsticks parallel across the bowl when not in use.
• Never spear food or dig around.
• Use the communal spoon, or turn your chopsticks around, to pick food from shared dishes.
When someone says "干杯 gān bēi" (bottoms up), clink glasses below the rim of a senior's glass and finish the shot or take a sizeable sip. If you prefer not to, say "随意 suí yì" (at your own pace).
Quality tea, local snacks, small city souvenirs, whisky or wine.
Clocks, umbrellas, white flowers, knives or scissors, green hats.
Wrap in red or gold paper; give and receive with two hands.
Offer the gift at the end of the meeting; your host may wait to open it later.
Adding friends: WeChat > "+" > Scan > point at the other person's QR code.
Paying: tap "Pay" for your personal receive-money QR; tap "Scan" to pay a merchant code.
Translating menus: WeChat Scan > Translate, or use Google Lens. Keep data active with eSIM or pocket Wi-Fi.
Tipping is not expected in mainland China.
• Hotel porters: 10–20 CNY per bag, optional.
• Upscale Western restaurants often add a 5–10% service charge automatically.
• Small change left in taxis or cafés is appreciated but never compulsory.
Politics, territorial issues, religion, and personal income are best avoided unless your host raises them first. If the subject comes up, listen more than you speak and keep opinions neutral.